Real Men Have Daughters

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Raising a daughter is un-mapped territory for a father.

But it’s territory where there’s no use for running away or stomping angrily around in circles. In daughter territory, we learn that we lose none of our true masculinity when our daughters draw out our “feminine side."

When my daughter Nia, after eleven years of training, danced a lead part in a ballet, I sat in the darkened auditorium feeling chills, my eyes filling with tears.

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Dad's Protector Predicament

“The first time a boy comes calling on my daughter, I’ll be out on the front porch just casually cleaning my shotgun. Because I was his age once; I know what he’s after and I want him to know it.” - Tony

Fearing the risks and dangers girls confront nowadays, we dads and stepdads long to engineer a single word or action powerful enough to protect our daughters.

If only a shotgun could do the trick!

Unfortunately, it does more harm than good.

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The Holidays: Acquisition or Altruism?

For parents trying to pass on positive values to children in a commercialized culture, the December holidays pose an especially CCFC_holiday_guide.JPGdifficult challenge.

Each year, holiday marketing begins earlier. And our children, targets for marketing all year round, face an ever-intensified onslaught of advertising designed to supplant the cultural, spiritual, social-political meaning of the holidays with celebration of materialistic acquisition instead of altruism, spending instead of spirituality, and getting instead of giving.

That’s why I wrote a contribution to the Campaign for Commercial Free Childhood’s CCFC Guide to Commercial-Free Holidays.

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Dads & Daughters® Giving Thanks

MavieJoe.jpgSometimes we’re so busy trying to get though today’s crazed schedule—or preparing for tomorrow’s and the next day’s—that we forget to talk about the most important things. Especially at this time of year.

Here’s a quick and simple exercise, appropriate for Thanksgiving week, to better understand how important you and your daughter or stepdaughter are to each other.

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The Few Times I Can Take the High Road

A while back, a live-away father wrote to me, explaining problems he had with his ex-wife about their daughter:

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