Completely Ready to Be a New Dad

Wouldn't it be great if you could get completely ready for becoming a father? Well, you can't. No matter how much you prepare, you're still entering entirely new territory. There are some things about fathering that can't be described or explained. You just have to be there.

Don't worry if you don't feel entirely ready for the birth of your child—no father is. That's because this baby has never been born before. Plus, knowing everything ahead of time would take a lot of fun out the experience. So don't fight it, accept it!

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Your Girl Needs You to Know

A marvelous blog post "What Little Girls Wish Daddies Knew" by Tara Hedman is going viral, with good reason. The author has captured vividly an array of essential truths. After 20+ years working on and writing about dad-daughter issues, I wish I'd said this so Eloquently!!  Here's her list of what we need to know:

1. How you love me is how I will love myself.

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Real Men Have Daughters

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Raising a daughter is un-mapped territory for a father.

But it’s territory where there’s no use for running away or stomping angrily around in circles. In daughter territory, we learn that we lose none of our true masculinity when our daughters draw out our “feminine side."

When my daughter Nia, after eleven years of training, danced a lead part in a ballet, I sat in the darkened auditorium feeling chills, my eyes filling with tears.

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Dad's Protector Predicament

“The first time a boy comes calling on my daughter, I’ll be out on the front porch just casually cleaning my shotgun. Because I was his age once; I know what he’s after and I want him to know it.” - Tony

Fearing the risks and dangers girls confront nowadays, we dads and stepdads long to engineer a single word or action powerful enough to protect our daughters.

If only a shotgun could do the trick!

Unfortunately, it does more harm than good.

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The Holidays: Acquisition or Altruism?

For parents trying to pass on positive values to children in a commercialized culture, the December holidays pose an especially CCFC_holiday_guide.JPGdifficult challenge.

Each year, holiday marketing begins earlier. And our children, targets for marketing all year round, face an ever-intensified onslaught of advertising designed to supplant the cultural, spiritual, social-political meaning of the holidays with celebration of materialistic acquisition instead of altruism, spending instead of spirituality, and getting instead of giving.

That’s why I wrote a contribution to the Campaign for Commercial Free Childhood’s CCFC Guide to Commercial-Free Holidays.

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