Play and Emotional Regulation

It may seem counter-intuitive, but play teaches our kids an enormous amount about emotional regulation--and how to identify the emotions they have.

After all, it helps to know what you've got before you try to regulate it!

Here's a great example from the wonderful Dr. Larry Cohen, author of Playful Parenting, The Opposite of Worry, and other great books.

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What Male Loved Ones Offer a Therapist

What can a client's male loved ones offer a therapist? More than you might think.

Last weekend, during a fascinating eating disorders conference at Monarch Cove in northern California, I heard therapist Nancy Albus, M.Ed., LPC, CEDS (CEO of Castlewood Treatment Centers) describe an intake interview she did with a woman seeking treatment for anorexia.

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When Men Go to the Gynecologist

Being an expectant father brings you many new experiences. For example....

If you're like most men, you've never had any reason to visit a gynecologist. You also probably have no experience finding reliable day care providers or deciding the merits of a midwife versus an obstetrician.

When it comes to pregnancy and birth, you've probably never seen a baby born before, and terms such as "amniocentesis" and "chorionic villus sampling" are most likely not in your regular vocabulary.

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Resentment & the New Dad

Pregnancy is stressful for Mom and Dad both. Mom gets most of the attention though, which can wear down an expectant father.

The first step in keeping your spirits up under stress is to communicate with your partner, family, friends, and health-care professionals. Let them know what you need, what you're thinking, and what you're feeling. (Yes, even what you're feeling!)

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Mistakes to Love

I worry about adults who expend enormous energy trying to parent perfectly. They seem to believe that any parental mistake will irreparably damage and scar their children.

However, that’s not how mistakes work. 

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